Living in the Now

Why is it that all my best "blog" thoughts come to me when I am:


a) walking the dog
b) in the bath
c) in bed at night drifting off to sleep


Seriously - it drives me nuts - I can "write" in my head a whole Blog - have a conversation with myself (in my head - I'm not that mad yet) about whether it will be good or not ... but then ..... when I get in front of the netbook ... whooosh ... it's all gone!


It's not all completely gone (otherwise there would be no blogs at all !) but the topics sometimes drift away - or what sounded brilliant in my head doesn't quite flow when I have put it down on here. So this week I had such a choice ...... 


Gaddafi - all those shocking images; 
Dale Farm and how that rolled out (Tony Ball for PM ?); 
Westlife - so sad they are splitting up - Jessica's first concert with me was a Westlife one ! 


I even thought of mentioning how majorly hot Matt Goss is looking in his 40's (sad I know) - oh .... well - there you go ..... I have mentioned it !


Then I visited Jess on Friday afternoon and ... after cuddles with Kovu,  conversations with Jess and my niece - my niece said ..... surely you should blog about this !


AND SHE IS RIGHT!


All these other things are happening and we are part of the world in which they are happening BUT at this point in time they don't affect me directly - I'm not saying "I'm alright Jack" just that we all need to live in our own moments - our own time and place. 


Part of my diploma for the Life Coaching dealt with "helping clients to learn to live in the now whilst promoting them to be the best they can be" I think that is great and totally agree with that concept BUT also, we must remember that each person's own individual best may not be at the same benchmark as yours or others.


Some people find success in academic achievement, some in sporting greatness, others find it in balancing their finances that month, having a roof over their heads, being a good Mum or Dad or friend - the "best they can be". 


ME - I am basically very VERY lazy - I push myself with my lists because otherwise I would achieve nothing - honestly - I could easily just sit and read a good book all the time or walk H or watch telly. I have identified my biggest weakness and deal with it by giving myself deadlines and goals so I actually can look back and think - hey yeah - I DID THAT !


BUT it doesn't really matter - success is measured on a truly individual scale and for most people it should NOT just be about financial success or possessions or material wealth - it should be happiness - that individual feeling for each and every one of us (ok so money can help and some people can and do have both). 


I sometimes think that some of us have lost that simple goal in our often hectic lives.


YET, on Friday I was blessed with another wonderful glimpse of that "living in the now" moment - watching a Lion King DVD with my grandson snuggled in my arms ... my niece and I chattering away ... as Jess pottered about tidying her house, chattering back at us.      


I would recommend each of us to take a 2 -5 minute break today - perhaps after reading this blog - stop - and just think about what you have, where you have been and where you are now - without wish lists, targets, goals or thoughts of the past - and hopefully most of us will find that our moment - right now - is good !